tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88141222426882964942024-03-13T22:43:41.353-04:00A Libertine's ThoughtsLibertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.comBlogger1085125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-88543989820453900372010-12-13T09:56:00.002-05:002010-12-13T10:03:35.785-05:00Phenomenal Trumpet Solo<span class="messageBody"><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">This is Maynard Ferguson, recorded some time in the 1960s. Ferguson, who died in 2006, was best known for his incredible range with the trumpet, easily able to hit notes more properly in the range of a piccolo. As a teenager playing trumpet in the high school band in the mid-70s, this man was my trumpet playing role model. Enjoy.</span></span><br /><br /><br /><object height="344" width="425"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/gWr0MzJ88k0?fs=1&hl=en_US"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/gWr0MzJ88k0?fs=1&hl=en_US" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" height="344" width="425"></embed></object></span>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-33626600371880797202010-12-07T18:44:00.000-05:002010-12-07T18:49:37.294-05:00If You Don't Have Anything Nice to Say...<p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">A few minutes ago, I saw a breaking news bulletin on Yahoo saying that Elizabeth Edwards had died. This came just a day after announcing that doctors had advised her that there was nothing more they could do and that she’d decided to stop treatments.</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">After reading the short announcement, I scrolled down to read the comments. Though many people posted respectful condolences, many others saw this as an opportunity to spew hateful, grammar- and spelling-challenged remarks. For some people, everything is an opportunity for partisan politics and no exceptions are made, even to respect the grief of those in mourning. To such people, if you do not believe as they do, then you have forfeited any considerations of courtesy and common decency and it’s open season on you and yours.</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I would think the old saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all”, should apply in such instances for everyone who has any character and integrity at all. If you don’t like Elizabeth Edwards or her husband, fine, but simply don’t comment on such articles at all if you can’t be respectful. A person’s death notice is not the time nor the place for partisan politics.</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">But the literacy-challenged trolls who haunt the comment sections of Yahoo News and other similar sites do not limit their vitriolic political spewing to articles relating to politics. They post comments trashing their political bugaboos on nearly<strong> every</strong> article posted, even those that don’t have even the remotest thing to do with politics. Apparently, no one has told these simple-minded fanatics that not everything in this world has to do with politics.</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">There are several ultra right wing politicians I find completely reprehensible, but I would nevertheless grant them the respect of my silence if they or someone in their family were to die and allow them to grieve in peace. Time and place, people. There are certain niceties that are the hallmark of a civilized society, and respect for the mourning is one of them.</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Thoughts?</span></p>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-59257644951799641542010-10-31T12:04:00.001-04:002010-10-31T12:08:04.907-04:00Musical Tastes of a Preschooler<span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">I’ve liked music since my earliest years, as music of all kinds was ever-present in my home as long as I can remember. And even from my preschool years, I expressed my preferences of music I liked best.</span></span> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Recently, I’ve been exploring YouTube, as much as my limited dial-up connection will allow. I came upon two of my earliest favorite songs, which turned out to be, believe it or not, Dixieland jazz. Odd preferences for a preschooler, but there you are. Listening to them again 40+ years later, I find I still like the songs as much as I did as a little kid.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">Below are videos of the two songs. </span></span><br /></p><p><object width="480" height="385"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/q5tnux7xxY8?fs=1&hl=en_US"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/q5tnux7xxY8?fs=1&hl=en_US" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="480" height="385"></embed></object></p><p><br /></p><p><object width="480" height="385"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/7jRB_8ovX_M?fs=1&hl=en_US"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/7jRB_8ovX_M?fs=1&hl=en_US" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="480" height="385"></embed></object></p><p>These are the two songs that made me want to take up the trumpet<br /></p>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-35251931075958575312010-08-23T23:21:00.000-04:002010-08-23T23:24:35.174-04:00Some Thoughts on the Dr Laura Brouhaha<p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I've observed with interest the latest "brouhaha du jour", that of Dr. Laura Schlessinger resigning her radio show over her repeated use of the "n-word" during the course of a single call.</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Predictably, she has been complaining about her 1st Amendment rights, backed up by the ever-present and ever-annoying Sarah Palin. I don't get what she's talking about, as I don't see anyone seeking to jail her for speaking her mind, however small-minded and mean-spirited it might be. What I <em>do </em>get is that others have been exercising <em>their </em>rights to free speech as well by objecting to what she said.</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">And in the free market economy that conservatives hold in such high regard, sometimes exercising that right in the business she's in can lead to unwanted consequences. In this case, the radio sponsors are voting with their wallets by withdrawing their sponsorship of her show. It's all about money.</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Monitoring the Neal Boortz show the other day, he talked about this incident and it both surprised and amused me that he referred to her as a "vile woman" It's rather surprising that he'd hold this opinion because, in my opinion, the two are cut from the same cloth.</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Apparently there's bad blood between the two for some reason because, on a previous show, he mentioned having to dance with her at some function they'd both attended and he opined that dancing with her was like holding a "dead fish".</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I happen to agree wholeheartedly with Boortz' opinion of her, which is rather a frightening thing in and of itself.</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Thoughts?</span></p>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-647072122955910672010-08-22T23:18:00.000-04:002010-08-23T23:21:15.195-04:00Historical Accuracy or Happily Ever After<span style="font-family: verdana;font-size:100%;" > <p>While visiting a lover the other day, she told me that she had a book that she wanted me to read, because the main male character reminded her of me. I said, sure, after which she handed me a historical romance novel, <em>Libertine's Kiss,</em> by Judith James.</p> <p>Being a guy, my normal preferred reading material does not usually include romance novels, but I have read some, particularly to research the occurrences of libertine characters in this genre, which is a fairly common character subtype.</p> <p>As I took the book from her and read the blurb on the back cover, I immediately had to laugh -- the main character shared my first name. The book's setting is the 17th century Restoration court of Charles II, who could have accurately been called a libertine king. The author's note stated that the main male character, William De Veres, was based on John Wilmot, Earl of Rochester, a noted libertine and poet in the court of Charles II. He was also the subject of the Johnny Depp movie, <em>The Libertine.</em></p> <p>As this book was classified as a romance novel, however, I already knew how the book was going to end -- in a monogamous marriage, at which time the libertine would cease being one. This is what the romance novel industry calls the "HEA"; the "happily ever after" formula, which is ubiquitous to every romance novel.</p> <p>Because of this, I knew the book was going to be a disappointment from the beginning, as it could not remain true to history, nor to the real person that inspired the novel's male lead if it were to adhere to the HEA formula. Indeed, I could imagine Wilmot's sardonic laughter if he'd been able to read the book and see the character he'd inspired go completely out of character during the course of the novel.</p> <p>And not only did the characterization of the male lead deviate from actual history, so did the female lead's view of what marriage should be deviate from 17th century norms in general, which I'll further elaborate on later below.</p> <p>Nevertheless, I decided to go ahead and read it, anyway. The book proved to be an engaging read, with the author throwing in snippets of Wilmot's actual poetry throughout the book. Many times during the book, the male lead expressed thoughts that could have come out of my own mouth; enough so that I wondered if the author had read my blog.</p> <p>To cite a few examples, when asked why he'd ended up as a libertine, he explained to the female lead that it was simply his nature, which is something I've done many times myself.</p> <p>In another scene, he proposes marriage to her, knowing that he needed to get married sooner or later if he was to have heirs. He reasoned that he might as well do so with a woman he cared for. When she asks if he would remain sexually faithful to her, he honestly tells her no, respecting her enough to be honest with her. When she protested, he explained that there was a difference between sex and love, implying that one should not be inextricably bound to the other.</p> <p>And this brings me to the book's flaws. The female lead, who was a widow, rejected his initial proposal because she vowed she would not remarry for anything but love. But such a sentiment would have been far less common in the 17th century than now. People then married much more often for practical reasons and love, if present, was considered icing on the cake, rather than the reason to marry in the first place. A woman of that time would not have demanded sexual exclusivity of a prospective husband, however much she might like it, as random dalliances would have simply been considered the nature of the male beast.</p> <p>Then there were the trite, cliched plot devices that could have been done away with and still allowed the story to adhere to the HEA ending.</p> <p>The first cliche was that the male lead was a libertine simply because he was a damaged, psychologically tortured man, having been molested as a teen by his tutor and for having had dysfunctional parents. Rarely in romance novels is a libertine a libertine merely because he like frequency and variety with his sex life. The assumption is that every <em>normal</em> person desires a lifelong, monogamous marriage.</p> <p>The second cliche that left me rolling my eyes in disbelief was that the male lead immediately lost the desire to have sex with other women the moment he took up with the female lead. He became de facto monogamous at this time, despite his claims to the contrary. This is completely unbelievable, as no person who'd been a libertine his entire would suddenly lose that proclivity at the drop of a hat. Indeed, I would imagine that a libertine who'd made the decision to start living a monogamous life would not lose the desire for sexual variety and would have to work very hard to maintain a monogamous life.</p> <p>Taken as a whole, however, this book was an interesting read, but I strongly believe the author would have done much better had she written it as straight historical fiction. If she'd done so, she would have been free to write the main characters in a more historically accurate manner, rather than as a romance, where she was hamstrung by the romance novel formulaic HEA requirement.</p> <p>Indeed, Paula Reed's historical novel, <em>Hester</em>, which takes place along the same time period as <em>Libertine's Kiss</em>, did just that, which served to produce a superior novel. Her libertine character, John Manning, is much more genuine and believable than James' William De Veres.</p> <p>Just my .02 cents.</p></span>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-59030653044774469352010-08-20T23:00:00.000-04:002010-08-23T23:18:29.949-04:00Differences of Opinion Among Conservatives<p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Listening to talk radio in recent weeks, I was struck by a difference of opinion between two conservative radio talk show hosts.</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Within the space of a week, I heard two talk show hosts comment about John Kerry's military service in Vietnam.</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Neal Boortz, in his typical obnoxious style, referred to Kerry as "scum", which he said was apart from disagreeing with the man's politics. He went on to sneer at his service in Vietnam, referring to Kerry's three Purple Hearts as "band-aid Purple Hearts" and that when he left Vietnam that he shouldn't have let the doorknob hit him on the way out or else that would be another Purple Heart for him.</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I'll have to hand it to Boortz. He certainly has chutzpah considering that he never served in Vietnam himself, although he was born in 1945 and was the right age to have done so. As far as I'm concerned, he has no place criticizing Kerry's service, considering that he didn't go at all.</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Dennis Miller on the other hand, while also not agreeing with Kerry's politics, said that he had to give the guy credit for serving in Vietnam and thanked him for his service, Miller, born in 1953, also did not serve, but is humbly grateful to all those who did, regardless of their political opinions.</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Comparing the two shows, Miller's is much easier to listen to. Though I find myself rolling my eyes at his opinions fairly often, he's got a good sense of humor, is laid back, and generally treats his callers with more respect than Boortz does. Plus, he doesn't always talk about politics and has some interesting and varied guests, even some who don't share his opinions.</span></p> <p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Personally, I think it's a good thing to know that the other side has gradations of fanaticism and that they don't all march in lockstep.</span></p>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-76619324499622435862010-07-06T16:05:00.001-04:002010-07-06T16:27:33.763-04:00Different Kinds of Ignorance<p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Today, while monitoring the Neal Boortz radio show, he had a segment featuring a survey taken at an amusement park where random people passing by were asked very basic questions about the history of Independence Day.</span></p><p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">None of the people could answer any of the questions correctly, except for one man at the end,who was identified as a grandfather. One woman who said she was a teacher did not get a single answer right.</span></p><p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">As I continued to listen, I was stunned by the level of jaw-dropping ignorance. The questions asked were quite simple, on the level of a third grader. These were questions I knew the answer to when I was ten years old.</span></p><p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Several people had no idea why we celebrate the Fourth of July. One person when asked which year the United States declared its independence said 1922. Another person named Winston Churchill as the general who led American forces during the Revolutionary War. Still yet another had no clue as to which country we were declaring our independence from.</span></p><p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I was just as appalled as Boortz was by the staggering ignorance.</span></p><p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">But then, Boortz showed his own ignorance, which was an ignorance of another sort entirely.</span></p><p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">He said that the level of ignorance surprised him because they were "all good-looking people; mainstream Americans." He went on to say that there were no people with "pot bellies with cigarettes dangling from their lips" nor were they wearing hoodies or had tattoos.</span></p><p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">My jaw dropped then at his staggering ignorance.</span></p><p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Since when is a person's appearance, level of subjective attractiveness, fashion sense, or weight a measure of their intelligence? At his age, Boortz should know what a crock of shit judging a book by its cover is.</span></p><p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Thoughts?</span></p>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-11562284317496164022010-06-29T01:44:00.000-04:002010-06-29T01:48:08.839-04:00Boredom and Age<p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I often hear teenagers and young adults complaining about being bored. I can remember doing likewise when I was a preteen and young teenager, before I could drive and get out on my own. As a young adult, I found I only experienced boredom whenever I spent extended periods alone which, fortunately, rarely happened. I've always liked to read, but there was a limit as to how much time I wanted to spend doing that.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">As a kid, I remember my parents rolling their eyes at me when I'd tell them I was bored, telling me they'd find me something to do if I was bored. The "something" was usually something unpleasant that involved doing work. I learned pretty quickly not to say I was bored within my parents hearing!</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">But as I recall, I kept fairly busy when I was a kid: riding my bike, playing ball, hiking through the woods, hanging out with my friends, listening to music, being in the band, playing board games, building tree houses, and so on. Unlike today's generation of kids and teens, we spent little time indoors during daylight hours and generally only watched TV at night, with the exception of Saturday morning cartoons. </span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I grew up in the sixties and seventies, so we also didn't have video games, cable/satellite TV, DVDs, home computers, internet, cell phones, and so on. We had to be a bit more creative to entertain ourselves than kids do nowadays, but we didn't have any less fun. Far from it; I think people of my generation had the chance to develop our own creativity to higher degree than in generally so with young people today.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Now that I'm *cough*middle-aged*cough*, I find that I'm almost never bored when I spend time alone now. It used to be that I would avoid spending much time alone, but now I find I enjoy my own company and am usually quite content to spend time in solitude. I can't say if it's having to learn to entertain myself as a kid in the absence of most technological entertainments taken for granted today, or if it's maturity finally kicking in on me. It's also interesting to note, that other than my computer and internet connection, I don't partake of much of the current technologies currently available -- I don't have cable or satellite, am not much interested in video games, and I have only a basic cell phone that I use only for talking. </span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">As it stands now, the only time I actually <em>need</em> to seek out others is if I'm horny, which still happens quite frequently, I'm happy to say. Otherwise, I'm quite content to hibernate with my computer for reading and writing, my books, and my stash of DVDs.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;font-size:100%;" >Thoughts?</span><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"> </span></span><br /></p>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-61428835128577241152010-06-29T01:25:00.001-04:002010-06-29T01:33:16.777-04:00It Was Bound to Happen Some Time<p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Listening to the Neal Boortz show a week or so ago, I found myself in the odd position of agreeing with him. He was talking with a caller about the proposed plan to build a mosque on the site of Ground Zero in Manhattan, where the World Trade towers once stood. Boortz thinks the idea is in extremely poor taste and that in rubs the noses of the American people into what happened there that day.</span></p><p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Later in the call, Boortz commented that in recent times, Islam has been associated with terrorism and sectarian violence more so than other religions, but that this hasn't been always so. He then mentioned that in certain periods in history, Christianity had been just as violent in the name of their faith, referring to the Catholic Inquisition and the witch hunts, among other things. He then said that it was because of the often violent history of the world's religions that he had absolutely no use for organized religion.</span></p><p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">For once, he was dead on the money. It was an odd thing to find myself entirely in agreement with him, but even a broken clock is right two times a day.</span></p>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-32657066611641600552010-06-18T01:40:00.000-04:002010-06-29T01:41:36.835-04:00Personality Type and Political Orientation<p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Recently, I came into contact online with someone I'd gone to school with and had not seen since that time. I was surprised to discover that he's now a strong conservative. Thinking of how he was when we were back in school, he would been one of the last people I'd have thought would have ended up as a conservative, as he was an easy-going, laid-back kind of a guy with an irreverent sense of humor.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I suppose it's a stereotype, but I don't associate conservatism with a people who have a strong sense of humor and an easy-going personality, If not apolitical, I would assume such a person would lean toward the liberal side.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Similarly, I went to school with some guys who were rather uptight, humorless, and straight-laced. These are the types that I'd imagine would end up as conservatives in their later years, though I'm sure that these types of people often do not fit the stereotype as my former classmate did not.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">How about you? Do you associate certain personality types with various political beliefs?</span></p>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-38309071132429549992010-06-11T01:34:00.001-04:002010-06-29T01:39:56.898-04:00Working Hard or Working Smart<p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">"Working hard" is a virtue that is often praised in our society. It is considered to be a great compliment to refer to someone as a hard worker. And while we are sometimes cautioned against overwork, most people would rather be thought of as workaholics, rather than slackers. For many, being thought of as lazy ranks right down there with being a liar or a thief.</span></p><p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">But what exactly do we mean by the phrase "working hard"? Do we mean always doing physically or mentally ardous work every moment of every working day. Does it mean working to the point where we drag ourselves home physically or mentally spent and drop into bed exhausted at the end of every work day? Does it mean we always work as fast as we possibly can? Does it mean searching out more work, even busy work, when there is nothing productive to do, so that every minute is spent "Doing Something", even if it's pointless labor?</span></p><p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">And this brings me to the point of this entry, the difference between "working hard" and "working smart". Someone working smart will attend to necessary tasks in a timely fashion in order to meet specific productive goals and at a steady, though not necessarily, frenetic, pace. Work done is always toward a useful goal and is not engaged in merely to "keep busy". Work is seen as but one component of a balanced life, where rest and leisure are seen as equally important, as someone who gets enough rest and leisure usually tends to work more productively. Work is seen merely as a means to an end, rather than an end of itself, so anything that can make a job easier is seen as an advantage. </span></p><p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Someone who works smart realizes that above all, we are paid for the time we give up for the needs of our employers, apart from the actual labor we do. Time is our most important cmmodity as , once spent, we can never have a particular block of time back in our lives to do over. In other words, once June 11, 2010 is over, I'll never have another June 11, 2010 to spend again doing different things. </span></p><p style="font-family:verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Thoughts?</span></p>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-39906689261822962942010-05-17T22:13:00.006-04:002010-05-17T22:22:04.462-04:00Book Review: Hester: The Missing Years of the Scarlet Letter by Paula Reed<div style="text-align: center;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_tzgf68T99H4/S_H4nbutvRI/AAAAAAAAAFo/r1kPfNm3Plo/s1600/9780312583927.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 171px; height: 258px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_tzgf68T99H4/S_H4nbutvRI/AAAAAAAAAFo/r1kPfNm3Plo/s320/9780312583927.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5472428378574142738" border="0" /></a><span style="font-weight: bold;">Hester: The Missing Years of the Scarlet Letter</span><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">by Paula Reed</span><br /><br />St. Martin's Press, February 2010<br />ISBN: 978-0-312-58392-7, ISBN10: 0-312-58392-3,<br />6 1/8 x 9 1/4 inches, 320 pages,<br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><br /><br /><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:verdana;">When Paula Reed asked me to read through a draft of her book, </span></span><span style="font-style: italic;font-family:verdana;font-size:100%;" >Hester</span><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:verdana;">, a couple of years ago, I was at first a bit hesitant that I would be able to give her a useful and informed opinion. I’d never read Hawthorne’s </span></span><span style="font-style: italic;font-family:verdana;font-size:100%;" >Scarlet Letter</span><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:verdana;"> all the way through, having been put off by his writing style the one time I’d attempted to read it. And despite being a history buff, the 17th century is not an era that I am much familiar with.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;">Nevertheless, I decided to go ahead and share my thoughts, as the opinion Paula sought from me was whether the character of John Manning, the philosophical libertine who became Hester’s lover and friend, resonated with me. As one who has spent my adult life living the life of a libertine without shame and as one who has always been interested in philosophical questions, this was something I felt I could adequately do.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;">In our blogs, I’d previously expressed to Paula that I’d like to see her write an unapologetic libertine character who did not change his ways by story’s end. She assured me that she’d remembered these blog conversations when creating Manning.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;">To answer Paula’s original question, I would say that John Manning’s character did indeed resonate with me. Unlike improbable romance novel libertines, who always, without fail, decide all they ever really wanted was a wife and children by story’s end, Paula Reed’s John Manning rings true to reality as he stays true to his self.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;">While reading, I often found myself nodding along with things he said, agreeing and understanding exactly where he was coming from. To quote Paula’s own words, John Manning “never changes, never repents, and remains a dear friend of Hester’s even after their sexual relationship ends.”</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;">As well as being Hester’s friend and lover, I saw John as a steadying influence in her life, bolstering her resolve to live without shame or apology, especially during the times when her confidence faltered. He was, to use an expression my father often used, her “BS detector”, just as she was the “BS detector” for everyone else.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;">What I think I enjoyed most about this book, were the questions about the nature of sin, shame, integrity, and the dictates of individual conscience vs. religion that ran through the novel, which I thought best addressed by Hester’s conversations with John. And, of course, I found it particularly appropriate and satisfying that Manning worked for the downfall of Puritanism.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;">One thing I particularly liked was how Sir John Manning was eulogized in the Epilogue:</span><br /><br /></span><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-style: italic;font-family:verdana;font-size:100%;" >“There lies Sir John Manning,” proclaimed Lady G--- “an impenitent sinner and the only man who never lied to a single woman. Not so much as ‘I shall see thee in the morning.’”</span><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:verdana;"> </span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic;font-family:verdana;font-size:100%;" >“He may never have lied to one,” avowed Lord H---, “but God knows he lay with more than his share. Can’t hate him for it, though. Many an Englishman benefited by way of a more skillful wife.”</span><br /></div><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;">I have to say that I would be quite happy to be eulogized similarly when my time comes.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;">Though I’m sure that those who have read Hawthorne’s original novel will enjoy this book as a companion novel, it also works well as a standalone for those, such as myself, who did not read <span style="font-style: italic;">The Scarlet Letter</span>. Highly recommended for those who enjoys historical fiction.</span><br /></span>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-9532570074663628582010-04-25T14:17:00.000-04:002010-04-25T14:21:13.444-04:00Boortz the Boor<p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Listening to the Neal Boortz show on the radio the other day, I was yet again reminded of what a jerk he can be.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">He mentioned being in the supermarket and seeing a large, fat woman with her nine year old little boy and how their grocery cart was filled with junk food. He proudly informed the listening audience that he went up to the little boy and told him that if he ate the type of food in the cart that he would end up big and fat like his mother.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">WTF?</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I don't know how he was raised, but I was raised to believe that you never direct criticism of a parent to a child, especially one that young. In my book, what he did was totally reprehensible; hurting a child's feelings with his rudeness about something the child had absolutely no control over.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">First of all, what business is it of his what strangers eat? Last time I checked, this was a free country and people are free to eat whatever they can afford to pay for, even if their choices are not the best ones.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Secondly, I highly doubt if he'd have meddled into what was none of his business if the woman had been loading up the cart with booze and cigarettes.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Thirdly, what kind of a fucking coward goes up to a little kid and vents his spleen about a problem he has with the child's mother? Wasn't he man enough to state his opinion directly to her? Was he afraid she'd be better able to defend herself against such cattiness than a defenseless little boy would? Did it make him feel like a big man to hurt a child's feelings?</span></p><span style="font-family: verdana;font-size:100%;" >Thoughts?</span>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-59725951753700283192010-04-24T03:25:00.001-04:002010-04-24T03:29:27.497-04:00Telltale Smarminess<p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I spend a lot of time in my car so I hear quite a bit of radio advertising. One annoying commercial is for Andy Willoughby's 3 Step Plan for work at home businesses. Every commercial starts off with him saying, "How in the world are you, anyway?" in a smarmy tone of voice that oozes fake sincerity, akin to that of the stereotypical used car salesman.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">My instant reaction when I heard his smarmy presentation for the first time was to think, "This guy must be a fundamentalist Christian", even though he never mentioned anything religious on the commercial. I'd never heard of this guy, so when I got home I Googled him. And, sure enough, he's a fundie. </span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">This type of image is common among the fundamentalist set. Many of them try to present an image of golly-gee-whiz wholesomeness, complete with the squeaky-clean Howdy Doody haircuts and deer-in-the-headlight expressions. This is combined with a forced earnestness in their tone of voice, that ends up coming across as smarmy, rather than sincere. I don't know why this is so common among fundamentalists, but I'm always able to spot it in a minute, as I did with these radio commercials.</span></p><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">I have news for them. God doesn't like smarmy.</span></span>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-28060453621580142382010-04-17T13:19:00.000-04:002010-04-17T13:23:14.812-04:00China's Demographic Crisis and Foreign Adoptions of Its Children<p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I recently heard of an old acquaintance who adopted a baby girl from China. I've heard of others in the past who have also done this, with the sex of the child always being female.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">After reading several recent news stories about the lopsided sex ratio that China is facing with the current generation coming into adulthood because of the widespread one-child policy and China's traditional preference for boys with the resultant practice of sex-selective abortions, this left me scratching my head. China's rising marriageable generation will have a surplus of 30 million males who will be unable to find brides in a monogamy-only society, yet China is allowing and promoting foreign adoptions of baby girls.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I did a bit of research and China has allowed foreign adoptions since the mid to late 1990s. In 2005 alone, 7000 children were adopted by Americans, and who knows how many more from other countries. Ninety-five percent of the children adopted are female. I can only see this as widening the sex ratio, rather than repairing it.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Does this make the least bit of <em>sense</em> to anyone?</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I'm not knocking those from other countries who adopt such baby girls; after all, they do deserve loving homes. But one would think that China would want to do anything in its power to alleviate the current demographic crisis. In previous blog posts, I've suggested polyandry as an immediate solution to the problem, which is highly unlikely to be seriously considered. But I would also think that their government would give incentives for Chinese couples to have preference in adopting these baby girls, in that they'd be doing a patriotic duty by helping to alleviate the demographic crisis.</span></p><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">Thoughts?</span></span>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-13233230046148975662010-04-06T15:23:00.001-04:002010-04-06T15:27:14.725-04:00An Excess Of Accommodations<p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Today, I went down to the county offices to pay the property taxes on my house. My county has a new building, opened last year, to conduct most business with the county. This new building is rather spacious, with about fifteen windows for people paying whatever fees applicable. I've been in this building a few times since it opened and there is never a long line.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">One thing I immediately noticed the first time I went in there was that every one of the fifteen windows was at dinner table height, so that patrons have to bend way over in order to write out a check, with their butts poked in the air.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I figured that the reason was to make county offices more accessible for those in wheelchairs, an assumption that was confirmed when I asked the clerk about it.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I'm all for building alterations that make public buildings more usable for those with physical limitations, but the way it was done in this particular building was ridiculous. I saw no need to make ALL the windows at wheelchair height; three or four windows would have been more than sufficient, in my opinion. After making this comment to the clerk, she told me that they were obliged to do it this way in order to get federal funds to build the building.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Curious, I looked up demographic statistics once I'd returned home. Out of a total population of about 310 million, only around 2.7 million Americans are in wheelchairs, which tends to support my assertion that far fewer wheelchair-height windows would have been more than sufficient.</span></p><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">Thoughts?</span></span>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-65359298405850288212010-04-04T13:45:00.001-04:002010-04-04T13:53:48.088-04:00Individuality and Political Philosophy<title>blank_page</title><link href="/console/admin/common/tinymce_2_1_0/jscripts/tiny_mce/themes/advanced/css/editor_content.css" rel="stylesheet"><link href="/console/admin/common/tinymce_2_1_0/editor_content.css" rel="stylesheet"><link href="/console/admin/common/tinymce_2_1_0/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/flash/css/content.css" rel="stylesheet"><base href="http://confessionsofalibertine.blog-city.com/console/admin/v5/edit/"><p><span style="font-size:100%;">Last night, when listening to Neal Boortz' latest rant-a-thon on the radio, I heard him assert to a caller that most individualists were conservatives and that most liberals were the type to herd with the crowd.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size:100%;">Say what?</span></p> <p><span style="font-size:100%;">In my experience, it's conservatives who tend to be cautious and most concerned with conformity, sticking to traditional ways of doing things and who are suspicious of innovation and new and different ways of doing things. It's liberals who tend think outside the box, to color outside the lines, who look forward instead of back. That's why it's liberals who are called progressives, and not conservatives.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size:100%;">Conservatism tends to be reactive and not proactive. That's why you hear more about what Republicans are against, rather than what they are for. Nearly all innovation and progress in our country (and in many others) has been inspired or generated by liberals who were not satisfied to merely conform to the way things were, but questioned and stepped out into new directions.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size:100%;">It's a conservative spirit that answers "That's the way we've always done it", when someone asks why and wonders why it couldn't be done differently. It's most often a conservative who believes there is one "right" way of doing things that everyone should adhere to.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size:100%;">But of course, Boortz wasn't actually speaking of individuality, per se. He was speaking of a person's focus in what they put first in their lives, as his next words indicated. He jeered at liberals for being concerned with the well being of groups of people, rather than being concerned mainly for themselves. To him, "individuality" doesn't mean having a unique personality, lifestyle, or outlook, but rather, in simply being primarily out for oneself, rather than being concerned with the well being of communities and different groups of people.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size:100%;">Thoughts?</span></p> <p><span style="font-size:78%;">-------
<br /></span><span style="font-size:78%;">If anyone is at all interested, today is my sixth anniversary as a blogger.</span></p>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-2861177785499658232010-03-26T13:55:00.004-04:002010-03-26T14:37:07.929-04:00Thoughts on Conservative Reactions to Health Care Bill<span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">I was listening to the Dennis Miller radio show the other night and he was wringing his hands over the passage of the health care bill. He was of the opinion that this was a sign that the US would be going the way of the Roman Empire and would essentially be the end of civilization as we know it.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: verdana;">I admit to being completely puzzled by this attitude -- is allowing countless numbers of people to die in one of the richest nations on Earth simply because of a lack of funds to get adequate health care the mark of a </span><span style="font-style: italic; font-family: verdana;">civilized</span><span style="font-family: verdana;"> society? Is valuing money over people's very lives the mark of an enlightened and advanced society? I think not.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: verdana;">Miller went on to say that he believed guaranteed health care for all citizens was a bad thing because it would make people "lose their motivation to 'hustle'".</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: verdana;">Again, I don't understand this reasoning. For one thing, all citizens deserve access to adequate health care simply because they are human beings, not because they work to "earn" it. Secondly, access to medical care is one of the basic tools that allows people to work hard in whatever endeavors they choose. It's hard to work up the motivation to "hustle" when you're sick and exhausted. Thirdly, having one's basic survival needs guaranteed will not kill people's desires to achieve and get ahead in life; as long as there are cars, electronic gadgets, luxury homes, season tickets to ball games, and so on to work for, people will be motivated to work. And for some lucky people in meaningful, creative jobs, work is its own reward well beyond the financial remuneration. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: verdana;">Another right-winger, Neal Boortz, said that he thought it was "too bad" for people who did not have health insurance, especially those who were denied because of pre-existing conditions, but that it wasn't his problem and that he considered having to pay taxes to help such people to be "stealing" his money. He also think it's an insurance company's right to deny such people as they don't make money off such people. Obviously, the making of money is the most important concern to him. I don't know how the man sleeps at night, knowing that people are needlessly dying, but that's not how I was raised.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: verdana;">Boortz not only is against the current health care reform; he also thinks that the current system is too lenient. He believes that all preventive and routine care, including pre-natal care, should not be covered by insurance; that it should be reserved only for catastrophic care. He has stated that those people who cannot afford to pay for pre-natal care out of their own pockets shouldn't be having children, anyway.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: verdana;">Never mind that access to preventive care is cheaper in the long run, as it often helps to prevent more serious and expensive problems down the line.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: verdana;">The new health care bill isn't perfect; far from it. But it's a start in the right direction.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: verdana;">Thoughts?</span></span>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-44565190464818141202010-03-23T17:04:00.000-04:002010-03-23T17:08:28.275-04:00The Right to Adultery<div style="font-family: verdana;" class="asset-content"> <div class="asset-body preview-links"> <p><span style="font-size:100%;">In an opinion piece, columnist and president of the National Organization for Marriage Maggie Gallagher questions whether Americans should have the <a href="http://news.yahoo.com/s/ucmg/20100319/cm_ucmg/therighttoadultery">"right to adultery</a>".</span></p><p><span style="font-size:100%;">Going against the commonly held opinion of many in the legal community, Gallagher takes a dim view of tolerating marital infidelity.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:100%;">Citing that <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1269012355_2" style="border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(0, 102, 204); cursor: pointer;"></span>"adultery involves twin offenses: (1) the violation by a married person of his or her vows; and (2) a third party's decision to invade another person's marriage, to seek their own personal satisfaction at the expense of the unknowing and unconsenting spouse", she is especially intolerant of using this common phenomenon as "a pathway to commercial success, " citing websites that help straying spouses to find sex partners, Rielle Hunter capitalizing on her status as "the other woman", and prostitute Ashley Dupre making money as a sex columnist on the New York Post. Gallagher states that she would like to see commercially soliciting for adultery be legally classified the same way as soliciting for prostitution.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:100%;">Waving aside the truth that one cannot legislate morality, she believes that we need to "come up with a way to encourage a little common decency."</span></p><p><span style="font-size:100%;">Gallagher insists that she doesn't want to persecute "every man or woman who has sinned," but rather that "people who commit this moral trespass to have the decency not to attempt to profit from it in the national media".</span></p><p><span style="font-size:100%;">OK, where to begin?</span></p><p><span style="font-size:100%;">First of all, the right for any adult to have sovereignty over their own bodies; the free choice to engage in any sort of sexual behavior they see fit, provided that their partner(s) are consenting adults, should be beyond question. Even when people have willingly agreed to restrict some of that freedom when entering a monogamous marriage, any departures from this agreement should be an entirely private matter between those involved and not something for the government to meddle in. The injured party should retain the right to sue for breach of contract as a practical matter, but the government has no business meddling in the private affairs of adults as a moral matter. Better yet, the government should drop sexual exclusivity as a necessary component of a legal marriage</span></p><p><span style="font-size:100%;">Secondly, notions of what is moral and decent are highly subjective matters. Who gets to decide what is moral or decent and what should such ideas be based on? Gallagher openly states that adultery is a "sin", which is a purely religious idea and should have absolutely no place whatsoever in secular law that governs the actions of all citizens of all religions and of no religion.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:100%;">My suggestion to Gallagher and others like her who are offended by those making money off of adultery would be to vote with their wallets and their feet. Don't patronize businesses that match married people with new sex partners, don't tune into TV shows or read magazine articles that feature Rielle Hunter, don't read newspaper columns by prostitutes, and so on. But don't restrict the freedom of others to do so, either.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:100%;">Thoughts?</span></p> </div> </div>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-50710333277108532832010-03-01T22:23:00.000-05:002010-03-01T22:29:16.752-05:00Study Claims That Liberalism, Atheism, and Sexual Exclusivity in Men Correlate With Higher IQs<p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><a href="http://www.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/02/26/liberals.atheists.sex.intelligence/index.html?on.cnn=1">A new study</a>, which will be published in the March 2010 issue of Social Psychology Quarterly, has claimed that higher IQs, on average, are correlated with liberalism, atheism, and sexual exclusivity in men (but not in women!).</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I buy the first two correlations, as I'm liberal and agnostic bordering on atheist, but I strongly beg to differ on the last correlation. I have never been sexually exclusive with anyone in the 30+ years I've been sexually active, yet I had the highest IQ in my high school graduating class (140). I know this because the guidance counselor made a point of telling me so shortly before I graduated.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;"> The reasoning given was that sexual exclusivity in men, liberalism and atheism all go against what would be expected given humans' evolutionary past.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Sexual exclusivity goes against the grain evolutionarily. With a goal of spreading genes, early men had multiple mates, which helped the human species survive </span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">George Washington University leadership professor James Bailey said that these preferences may stem from a desire to show superiority or elitism, which also has to do with IQ. In fact, aligning oneself with "unconventional" philosophies such as liberalism or atheism may be "ways to communicate to everyone that you're pretty smart."</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">I see several things wrong with the inclusion of sexual exclusivity as a factor involved in higher intelligence. First of all, sexual activity and reproduction are no longer inextricably linked; thus promiscuity no longer necessarily means that a man will sire large amounts of children. Secondly, no libertine worth his salt, myself included, sleeps with a large variety of women with the desire to "spread our genes around." I've had hundreds of partners in my lifetime, yet I've managed to sire only one child.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Considering that every male celebrity who strays from his marriage now garners widespread societal disapproval and extensive publicity, I'd hardly say that sexual exclusivity is no longer an "unconventional" idea for men. Sexual exclusivity for both sexes has been one of our society's most sacred of cows for quite some time now, regardless of human nature.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Indeed, to be openly and unashamedly non-monogamous is now an unconventional philosophy in our current society.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">And in light of the fact that it was religion that imposed monogamy on society in the first place and a large part of being religious today is to accept and adhere to the idea of sexual exclusivity with a single mate, it would seem as if intentionally non-monogamous lifestyles would be more accepted among liberals and atheists.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">An interesting study to be sure, but one with a lot of holes in it.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Thoughts? </span></p>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-89164757628320420272010-03-01T02:25:00.000-05:002010-03-01T02:28:17.261-05:00Why I Hate "Live" Albums<div style="font-family: verdana;" class="asset-content"> <div class="asset-body preview-links"> <p><span style="font-size:100%;">Over the years, when buying recorded music: LP albums, and later, CDs, I've always avoided buying "Live" albums. That is, music recorded live at a concert. There are several reasons why I hate "Live" albums in general, though there are a few exceptions:</span></p><p><span style="font-size:100%;">1. The songs are generally rushed, as the musicians desire to cram in as many songs during a concert as possible.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:100%;">2. The songs are often stripped down as well as being rushed: fewer instruments, simpler arrangements, etc.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:100%;">3. Live albums are always marred by the sound of morons in the audience who feel they must accompany the musicians by emitting frequent and lengthy high-pitched whistles. I prefer to hear my favorite musicians unaccompanied by the sound of "FWEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!" every few seconds, tyvm.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:100%;">I can only think of one live album that I like and that is Eric Clapton's "Just One Night", recorded at Tokyo's Budokan Theatre in December, 1979, which happens to be my favorite Clapton album.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:100%;">Thoughts?</span></p> </div> </div>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-18373899980326724832010-02-19T15:16:00.000-05:002010-02-19T15:19:49.716-05:00Rolling My Eyes at Tiger Woods' Apology<p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">So, Tiger Woods has made a public apology for committing adultery. Pardon me while I allow my eyes toi roll back into my head.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Woods owes no one any apologies for his private behavior except for his wife. His lack of adherence to his marriage vows is an entirely private and personal matter, not a professional one. He is a professional golfer and I can't imagine that upholding monogamy was part of his job description.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">And he did not break the law; he merely violated a societal sacred cow. Indeed, I don't see real criminals, such as the Enron bunch, making public apologies to their stockholders and the general public, so why should Woods apologize to all and sundry for his infidelity. It's not as if he is married to the whole world.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">And Woods mentioned getting "treatment", presumably for "sexual addiction". Give me a f'in break! Non-monogamy is not a mental disorder and I firmly believe that the notion of "sexual addiction" is a very flimsy category, based more on social mores, than science. We must remember that homosexuality was likewise considered to be a mental disorder until as recently as 1973.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">"Sex addiction is one of those pop psychology diagnoses that has scant scientific support," Scott Lilienfeld, <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1266540927_5" style="background: transparent none repeat scroll 0% 0%; cursor: pointer; -moz-background-clip: border; -moz-background-origin: padding; -moz-background-inline-policy: continuous;">Associate Professor</span> of <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1266540927_6" style="border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(0, 102, 204); background: transparent none repeat scroll 0% 0%; cursor: pointer; -moz-background-clip: border; -moz-background-origin: padding; -moz-background-inline-policy: continuous;">Psychology</span> at <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1266540927_7" style="background: transparent none repeat scroll 0% 0%; cursor: pointer; -moz-background-clip: border; -moz-background-origin: padding; -moz-background-inline-policy: continuous;">Emory University</span><span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1266540927_8">LiveScience</span>. </span> and co-author of "50 Great Myths of Popular Psychology," told </p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><span><span style="font-size: small;">Dr. Marty Klein, a Licensed Marriage & Family Counselor and Sex Therapist, believes that the notion of "sex addiction" is "a set of moral beliefs disguised as science" that assumes sex is dangerous. The examples he gave are: that sex should be within the context of a committed and monogamous heterosexual relationship, that masturbation should be confined to once a day, and that having sex to escape problems is unhealthy. </span></span></span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">He pointed out that sex addiction has also been used as a political justification for censorship, eliminating sex education and birth control clinics and opposing equal rights for gays and lesbians.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Tiger Woods' problem is his lack of honesty and failing to do as he promised to his wife, not his sexual behavior, per se. But in either instance, it's a private matter between the two of them and not any business of the public.</span></p><span style="font-family: verdana;font-size:100%;" >Thoughts?</span>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-64002240692515461432010-02-11T13:20:00.003-05:002010-02-11T13:54:28.835-05:00Petty Distractions<span style="font-family: verdana;font-size:100%;" >Recently, people have been making fun of Sarah Palin for writing crib notes on her palm. I even heard of someone referring to what she did as a "Redneck Teleprompter". I have to roll my eyes at this, thinking it a ridiculous thing to criticize someone about.<br /><br />Don't get me wrong; I am most assuredly no fan of Sarah Palin and would never consider voting for this woman.<br /><br />But fair is fair, even for Sarah Palin. Who among us hasn't written down a phone number, directions, or something else on our hands one time or another? What's it to anyone else if she wanted to do this to help her remember?<br /><br />There's no need to stoop so low to criticize her about such petty things, as there are many more glaring faults that we should be calling attention to in these years before the 2012 Republican nominations for president. To concentrate on such insignificant matters distracts us from what really matters and only ends up making us look petty.<br /><br />Thoughts?</span>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-53899540224046692402010-02-08T21:26:00.001-05:002010-02-08T21:31:49.812-05:00Boortz on Ad Hominems<p style="font-family: verdana;">Thought I know it's not good for my blood pressure, I continue to listen to right-wing talk show host Neal Boortz, as part of my campaign of monitoring what the other side thinks.</p><p style="font-family: verdana;">Recently, he talked about a tasteless comment made by Keith Olbermann about Michelle Malkin, who called her a "mashed-up bag of meat with lipstick on it." While I heartily dislike Malkin, I agree with Boortz that this was an uncalled-for ad hominem.</p><p style="font-family: verdana;">That being said, however, it's no worse than the ad hominems spewed every day by many of his right-wing colleagues.</p><p style="font-family: verdana;">I have no problems with Boortz pointing out this inappropriate comment. That's his opinion and he has every right to express it.</p><p style="font-family: verdana;">But what he said to a caller about this incident nearly made me choke, with both laughter and disbelief. He asserted to the caller that liberals (and liberals only) resort to ad hominems because they have no reasoned arguments to make and because liberals supposedly argue out of irrational emotion and not logic.</p><p style="font-family: verdana;">Excuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuse me?</p><p style="font-family: verdana;">Does he think his listeners are stupid and/or have no memories or is he that self-deluded about his own behavior and that of his right wing cohorts?</p><p style="font-family: verdana;">This assertion is coming from a man who has referred to Hillary Clinton as as "evil" woman who "hates marriage and children" and "makes a mockery out of the institution of marriage". (Boortz has been divorced himself). His personal nickname for her is "the Hildebeast".</p><p style="font-family: verdana;">He once opined that former Rep. Cynthia McKinney (D-GA) "looked like a ghetto slut". Referring to her hairstyle, he said, "an explosion at a Brillo pad factory," like "Tina Turner peeing on an electric fence," and like "a shih tzu." </p><p style="font-family: verdana;">In reference to the victims of Hurricane Katrina, he said, "When these Katrina so-called refugees were scattered about the country, it was just a glorified episode of putting out the garbage<em>"</em> and "I love talking to you about these Katrina refugees. I mean, so many of them have turned out to be complete bums, just debris." Boortz also described New Orleans as "a city of parasites, a city of people who could not and had no desire to fend for themselves." </p><p style="font-family: verdana;">He commonly refers to all fat people as "lardasses". He recently asserted that single mothers are "the biggest danger to America today" and refers to welfare mothers as "brood mares." I've heard him refer to southerners who have thick, country accents as "blithering idiots" and he's called those who work only 40 hours a week and/or live in a mobile home as "losers"</p><p style="font-family: verdana;">I could go on, but I think you get the picture..</p><p style="font-family: verdana;">Does any of this sound like rational, helpful debate to you? I didn't think so.</p>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8814122242688296494.post-73774153940969728112010-02-06T14:16:00.001-05:002010-02-06T14:21:21.748-05:00Mark Sanford: A Promise Not Made<p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">Yesterday,Jenny Sanford's tell-all memoir was published. Sanford is the soon-to-be former wife of South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford, who was recently outed as having gone AWOL from his post to visit his Argentinian mistress.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">In the book she revealed that Mark Sanford did not vow to be faithful to her at their wedding. ABC reported:</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /></span></p><div style="text-align: center; font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><em>Sanford recalls how she made the "leap of faith" to marry husband Gov. Mark Sanford even though the groom refused to promise to be faithful, insisting that the clause be removed from their wedding vows. </em></span></div><p style="text-align: center; font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><em>"It bothered me to some extent, but ... we were very young, we were in love ... I questioned it, but I got past it ... along with other doubts that I had." </em><br /></span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /></span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">This means that Sanford made it quite clear right up front that he either could not or would not be sexually exclusive with her, giving her the chance to back out of the wedding. Instead, she went ahead and married him, anyway.</span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">It seems to me that she has little to complain about, considering he made his intentions quite clear years ago. It's not his fault that she didn't take him at his word. He would not promise to be faithful to her, so I don't see why she's so surprised now.<br /></span></p><p style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="font-size:100%;">As a South Carolina resident, I don't give a rat's ass whether or not the man was monogamous. Rather, I'm more concerned that he went AWOL from his job for a week, leaving the country without letting anyone know where he was going, and not leaving anyone to "mind the store", so to speak.</span></p><span style="font-family: verdana;font-size:100%;" >Thoughts?</span>Libertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654747078996932165noreply@blogger.com0