On Alternet recently, I browsed through an article, Mormon Homophobia: Up Close and Personal by Sheldon Rampton. Once again, I found myself responding to a comment that had veered off the point of the original article.
The original comment:
Individual Mormons changing is what changes the church
My sister follows Mormon doctrine to the extent that she bore 7 healthy children and is now, at age 74, grandmother to more than 20. She is the matriarch of this very large family. She is "Mrs. Mormon."
BUT she did not vote for the "Gay Marriage Ban" when it came up in Utah elections. As she expressed it, The problem in Utah is not gay marriage -- it's polygamy.
The Problem is Forced Marriage of Underage Girls, Not Polygamy, Per Se
Or should I say polygyny, because such Mormons only allow men to have more than one spouse and not the other way around as well.
It's not non-monogamous marriage that is even the problem among such Mormons. It's patriarchal, fundamentalists religion that compels underage girls to marry old men that's the problem.
It would still be as big of a problem if it was just ONE young girl being forced to marry just ONE old man.
So, the problem isn't monogamy vs non-monogamy, per se.
Indeed, the existence of polyamory, which is when both men and women may have multiple spouses, and is engaged in only by fully consenting adults shows that this is so.
Let's focus on the real root of the problem: fundamentalist patriarchal religion.