Tuesday, December 7, 2010

If You Don't Have Anything Nice to Say...

A few minutes ago, I saw a breaking news bulletin on Yahoo saying that Elizabeth Edwards had died. This came just a day after announcing that doctors had advised her that there was nothing more they could do and that she’d decided to stop treatments.

After reading the short announcement, I scrolled down to read the comments. Though many people posted respectful condolences, many others saw this as an opportunity to spew hateful, grammar- and spelling-challenged remarks. For some people, everything is an opportunity for partisan politics and no exceptions are made, even to respect the grief of those in mourning. To such people, if you do not believe as they do, then you have forfeited any considerations of courtesy and common decency and it’s open season on you and yours.

I would think the old saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all”, should apply in such instances for everyone who has any character and integrity at all. If you don’t like Elizabeth Edwards or her husband, fine, but simply don’t comment on such articles at all if you can’t be respectful. A person’s death notice is not the time nor the place for partisan politics.

But the literacy-challenged trolls who haunt the comment sections of Yahoo News and other similar sites do not limit their vitriolic political spewing to articles relating to politics. They post comments trashing their political bugaboos on nearly every article posted, even those that don’t have even the remotest thing to do with politics. Apparently, no one has told these simple-minded fanatics that not everything in this world has to do with politics.

There are several ultra right wing politicians I find completely reprehensible, but I would nevertheless grant them the respect of my silence if they or someone in their family were to die and allow them to grieve in peace. Time and place, people. There are certain niceties that are the hallmark of a civilized society, and respect for the mourning is one of them.

Thoughts?

13 comments:

KingOfAnkh said...

I agree wholeheartedly! There is a time and a place for everything.

Nicole said...

Absolutely. I'm a breast cancer survivor and Elizabeth's struggle and death hit me pretty hard. As it always does when another pink ribbon sister passes on. None of us are perfect and all of us will likely leave behind a few people who may not care that we are no longer here. But for those wonderful few (or many) folks who will care, who do love us... all of us deserve to give those people their moment of peace and silence as they grapple with the finality of life. I think that for too many people, celebrities, politicians and the like cease to be real and therefore they do not seem to require the same treatment that is afforded other real people. It is a shame that we have moved so far from basic civility. Thank you for your post... it was wonderful.

~Easy said...

The trolls always seem to come out at time like this.

Anonymous said...
This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
Meet the Muse said...

"Bambi's" mother had it right!

http://meetthemuse.blogspot.com/

Kyle Willenburg said...

I am glad to see that I am not the only one taxed by the lack of what should be basic human character. Not only in the grievous circumstances you are addressing, but in common every-day things such as commenting on Youtube videos. It may be a way to vent anger and frustration, but condemnation and personal attacks seldom if ever convince anyone that the person confronting them has a point worth heeding. If you don't have something good to say, say it in an inteligent, respectful way. At least people will listen.

Francesca Ebel said...

Blog: http://thenocturnalactivist.blogspot.com

Twitter: @FrancescaEbel

Anonymous said...

A sad day when another peephole on the universe is slammed shut forever. Didn't agree with her but vaguely admired her persistency. Of course this was only based on fleeting sights on the television. Like Dee Snyder.

Guglielmo Boogliodemus said...

A sad day when another peephole on the universe is slammed shut forever. Didn't agree with her but vaguely admired her persistency. Of course this was only based on fleeting sights on the television. Like Dee Snyder. Don't agree with John Edwards, with normal teeth or abnormal teeth.

homebusinessesforbeginners said...

To Start Earning Online Has Become a Major Source of Alternate Income Generating Platform for Job Persons as well as Business Oriented People, Everybody wants to earn more more Money from their Free time. But Before Starting Any Online Business We Have To Be Careful as there are many Scam Sites Which Promises big Earnings But Doesn't Give any Good Results
http://homebusinessesforbeginners.blogspot.in/

homebusinessesforbeginners said...

http://homebusinessesforbeginners.blogspot.in/
To Start Earning Online Has Become a Major Source of Alternate Income Generating Platform for Job Persons as well as Business Oriented People, Everybody wants to earn more more Money from their Free time. But Before Starting Any Online Business We Have To Be Careful as there are many Scam Sites Which Promises big Earnings But Doesn't Give any Good Results

fifa14.vipmmobank said...

Hashimoto have also been boss in the business's Superior Technology Division along with headed development upon Sq Enix's fresh Glowing powerplant, which power the 2013 Agni's Viewpoint technological demo.
Fifa 15 Ultimate Team Coins

Fifa 15 coins PC

ana medo said...

شركة مكافحة بق الفراش بالاحساء

شركة مكافحة حشرات بالقطيف

شركة رش مبيدات بالاحساء
اتود الوصول لافضل عمليات التنظيف مع الحصول علي ضمان لاطول فترة خصومات وعروض رائعه لعمليات التنظيف يمكنك الاستمتاع بالخدمة عن طريق زيارة الرابط التالي

شركة تنظيف فلل بالاحساء